A New Way of Thinking……......
..............A Better Way of Living
The Star System
S = Stop
Stop the automatic action –
Do not yell, get defensive, hit, or hold in feelings.
T = Think
Think of what I need to do about the anger.
Anger is O.K., use it to solve the problem.
A = Act
Act to solve the problem by talking to yourself about what
could be done about it. If someone else is involved,
talk to them about a solution.
R = Reward
Reward yourself when you are effective in re-working, re-thinking, stopping the unwanted actions
brought on by anger.
If you find yourself not earning a reward for a particular decision. (Substitute the words: Replay, Rewind, Repeat,
Re-do, for the letter (R), and attempt the STAR process again until you are able to reap the rewards!)