The Star System

Stop……Think……Act……Reward……

S = Stop

Stop the automatic action –

Do not yell, get defensive, hit, or hold in feelings.

T = Think

Think of what I need to do about the anger.

Anger is O.K., use it to solve the problem.

A = Act

Act to solve the problem by talking to yourself about what

could be done about it. If someone else is involved,

talk to them about a solution.

R = Reward

Reward yourself when you are effective in re-working, re-thinking, stopping the unwanted actions

brought on by anger.

If you find yourself not earning a reward for a particular decision. (Substitute the words: Replay, Rewind, Repeat,

Re-do, for the letter (R), and attempt the STAR process again until you are able to reap the rewards!)